Have you ever felt unloved or unnoticed when you didn’t get what you wanted? “There is no want to those who fear Him” was the verse I couldn’t get past this morning; making perfect sense because I spent the rest of the day practicing it. (Psalm 34: 9b)
Recently, I sought Biblical counseling from a godly woman. She took me through an exercise where, in short, you journal what you want. But first allow me to explain the theology behind it: only one can be on the altar of your heart – yourself or God. The point is to recognize the lies we believe about God, others and ourselves. It looks something like this:
I want to feel accepted and if I don’t get it , I will please man to get attention and feel good about myself.
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I want to feel significant and if I don’t get it I will isolate myself so I don’t get hurt.
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The one I am struggling with today:
I want to feel secure in my marriage and if I don’t get it I will resentfully shut down emotionally.
Can you relate to any of these statements? I am reminded of a previous post – since the fall in the Garden, we are seeking to get back significance, acceptance and security.
When I work through struggles, like today, I get perspective when I remember that God already knows what I need. How precious that He answers this cry of my heart by telling me to fear Him. This frees me from striving hopelessly for what was lost long ago.
Then James 4 came to mind. In the writers rhetorical rebuke he asks: why do you fight and quarrel? Where do they come from among you? I fight (or want) what God has already said He has covered continuing in Psalm 34: But those who seek the Lord shall not lack any good thing… God is near to the broken heart.
My thinking turned from self on the throne to God and truth and looks like this:
I no longer need to feel secure in my marriage because God is love and there is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment! (1 John 4: 16, 18)
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I no longer need to please man because I did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but receive the Spirit of adoption by whom I cry out, Abba Father. (Romans 8:15)
The God who sees (El Roi) deems me as significant. My Abba Father says I am accepted, and my Redeemer, who came for me, has secured my future; and its these truths that lift me from the place of want to a place of rest! May you find rest in fearing God alone.